Avoid this trap: the pity line

Imagine this, there’s your higher self floating above you, on a cloud. Peaceful, wise, unattached to drama, fear-based marketing and fake news, unconcerned with body image and life’s fading pleasures. Higher-you knows what’s real and what’s spin, what’s important and what’s temporary. She knows. And she’s un-fluster-able.

Then there’s the human you, on the ground, weighed down by your flesh suit and material things. She lives in a tornado of your worries, finances and ego. She’s tangled in the network of your relationships. Even though she has to deal with the negative trappings of being human, she also gets to run and jump and sing. She gets hug people, have orgasms, taste delicious food, say the words ‘I love you’ and 'nice to meet you’ or 'I forgive you’. She can swim in the oceans and drink the beauty of nature with her human eyeballs. She get’s to create, actually make the ideas in her head and bring them to life.

When faced with a problem, human-you cannot see the whole picture through her limitation coloured glasses. Luckily, she can tap into the wisdom of higher-you and enjoy an expansive a-ha moment, when worries release and solutions appear. You see human-you and higher-you are connected by a series of pathways, a metro-overground if you will, made up of tubes that reach up into the heavens of the higher plains.  

Riding the tube to higher consciousness if just as confusing as riding the London Tube for the first time. Imagine a sea of tubes, not unlike the one that Augustas Gloop get’s stuck inside at Charlie’s Chocolate Factory. There are some that go straight to the heavens and others that twist and bend and loop around like a vomit machine roller coaster.

Not all tubes in the metro-overground are created equal. The ones on the gentle side of town labeled 'self awareness’, 'self compassion’, and 'self belief’ are a little harder to find but offer a much safer and direct journey to the fluffy white clouds. While the easy to find, well worn tubes labeled 'self doubt’ and 'self loathing’ actually detour the higher plains, leading to another hidden loop. The name of this loop have been scratched out on the map, but if you look closely you will find the remains of two words: 'self pity’.  

The Pity Line doesn’t have any stops, or go anywhere, it is what you call a vicious cycle. A never ending loop of grey clouds and ‘why me’ thoughts. Even if you’re seeking wisdom, right action or peace of mind - the Pity Line won’t take you there. It’s a trap we fall into, hoping that if we focus on what we don’t want we’ll somehow find what we do. But the mind doesn’t work like that. What we focus on our mind will find more of, so self pity is really just another word for self sabotage. 

The Higher Self wants to help us out of the muck, but it can’t reach us on the Pity Line. Higher-you will wait patiently until you realise that your journey to nowhere is taking an awfully long time. It will wait as you start to decipher your location, waiting still as you realise you are in the self pity loop. In that moment of realisation you have broken the loop, finding yourself now on a new platform. In front of you the Self Awareness Express is about to board, behind you the Pity Line is still taking passengers. 

The next move is yours. 

- Buzzy x 

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