Find Your Tribe
Where do you go when you procrastinate?
I can be found deep diving into Pinterest or ears deep in Podcasts. I’m drawn to the energy of renegades, whether its stand alone fashion or #girlbosses telling stories of how they forged their own path - I could drink that inspiration for days.
Before pinterest, I was a magazine-aholic. Piled high I had too many to keep so I tore out my favourite images and created a folder of collages. This was before I’d heard the term ‘mood board’ or ‘vision board’, I just knew it would be a crime to throw them away. I rarely looked at the folders but the process of making them was so fun I did it again every couple of years, whenever the magazine piles were getting out of hand. To my amazement everything I dreamed about has come to fruition: the material things, the career, the sea change, the travels, the home - all seeded in those glossy spreads. Revisiting my early mood boards has shown me how potent this practice was on my life and how immersing yourself in inspiration can literally lift your vibration and in turn change your reality.
When I started my first creative business I spent hours a day listening to entrepreneurial podcasts, and the renegades behind big business whom I would not have had the opportunity to speak to in real life. I learnt a lot from those talks, but the biggest takeaway was that these ‘legends’ were normal people, who started out just as small as I was. Podcasts gave me a huge boost of confidence to step into the business arena. Being around the energy of these people is contagious, it somehow changed how I saw myself and the world. The impossible became possible, uncertainty become curiosity and obstacles become opportunities to grow.
The buzz phrase ‘find your tribe’ is a clique you need to take seriously if you want to step up. I believe changing your company is the fastest way to change your life. So many ideas are killed by the well meaning advice of our failure fearing friends and family, who try and protect us with their caution. Brene Brown speaks to this in her book ‘Daring Greatly’ where she retells the Theodore Roosevelt speech ‘The Man in the Arena’:
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles…The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena…who strives valiantly…who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat”.
When the people who not in the arena generously share their concerns, see their cautions as mere reflections of their own limitations, not yours. It is the people who have done or are doing what you wish to achieve that you should listen to. The people who choose to live without regret, even if it means falling down. When others say ‘what if’ those in arena will say ‘why not!’
Early in your journey you may feel like an impostor, unworthy to sit at the table with your role models, this is normal. Try first building your confidence by immersing yourself in your desires, whether through biographies, videos, talks, or photos - go swimming in your inspiration and catch the vibration.
DISCLAIMER:
DON’T JUDGE YOUR INSIDES BY OTHER PEOPLE’S OUTSIDES
Before you dive in to this external vibration hunt, beware of your internal critic. When you see people who have things you don’t, it can be easy to judge your insides by other people’s outsides. Rather than feeding the myth of inadequacy remember these two truths. The first, you are your desires, meaning the things that stir up envy for others are the things inside you that are waiting to come forth. The second, everything is connected and equal, so if they can so can you, see the success of others as a reason to celebrate your own potential.
Good vibes.
Your Friend,
Buzzy
Ps. some of my favourite podcasts are:
What are yours?