Be Both

The loneliest place is not being alone, it’s not even feeling alone in the company of others. There are lonelier places than a sea of people who do not understand you. The loneliest of the lonelies is to be misunderstood in your own company. Who even am I?

Failure Friendly is unapologetically self centered. 

The free FF Toolkit with its rules and structure helps to create a safe space where we can practice three selfish skills: self awareness, self belief and self compassion. BECAUSE crippling anxiety and the need to control uncertainty are symptoms of self abandonment. 

Learning yourself, how to trust your nature and respect the creative process is the light at the Failure Friendly tunnel. (Spoiler, the tunnel doesn’t have an end, luckily there is always more light to find). But we’re not talking about light today, we’re talking about the darkside of creativity.

When self doubt becomes your default setting, your psyche’s security team take it upon themselves to ban anything that comes from the heart. Your emotions, your inner guiding voice, the part of you that is unique to you: ACCESS DENIED. For your own protection, they move the control room to the head and slam the door behind them. 

Without an internal guidance system your psyche has to start looking outside of itself for direction, for permission and validation. Luckily it doesn’t have to look far, the media floods it with images and messaging. Social media sets the bar: curated, filtered, perfection. 

You’re driven, you chase the shiny facades that other people portray. You run further and further away from yourself. And when you succeed you wonder why it feels so empty. That’s the thing about facades, comparing your insides to other people’s outsides - it’s not real. It’s not human. 

‘Only human’ means we’re not supposed to be ‘perfect’, life is messy, yet we chase these alien standards as if our worth depends on it. In this unobtainable race we begin to resent our human needs. The great inconvenience - sleep, closely followed by duties like exercise, organising meals, drinking enough water, going to the toilet ‘I’ll hold it’, aging and yes making mistakes. 

We are not aliens or walking to do lists. We are perfectly human. Emotional, messy, amazing. There is so much joy and pleasure to be had in this short human life if you embrace who you really are. Swim past shallow waters of a controlled persona and surrender to emotional depth, in all of it’s messy splendor. 

You were built for it.

Buzzy :)